I married my husband with depression. I married my husband at 31 with no sex drive. I went off the pill at 35 and my marriage was a whole new world of love, sex and stabilized moods. It's a wonder he married me at all!
My story starts at 17 when I was put on the pill for irregular periods, which basically meant it wasn't a perfect 28 day cycle. Since then I was on the pill, the norplant and finally the nuvaring until I was 35. I was one of the first women in the country to get a norplant from the University of Missouri and I promptly gained 50 pounds and an ovarian cancer scare. Then I went on to progesterone based pills, then finally the nuvaring. I had constipation, weight gain, lack of sex drive and depression. When I finally went off I discovered my body no longer knew how to make its own progesterone and I was horribly estrogen dominant but I felt better than I ever had. For the first time I desired my husband in a way I had no idea I was missing. For the first time I pooped every day instead of every four days (awful).
However, much damage was already done. The body needs estrogen to be pregnant and my body no longer produces it's own so I have happily adopted. Funny how my pregnancy prevention resulted in infertility. To correct my estrogen dominance my doctors suggested I go back on the pill! NO WAY. My periods are freakishly heavy to the point of not being able to leave the house and weight loss has been an impossible challenge but I still feel going off the pill was the best thing I've ever done.
Another interesting issue was I was told I had PCOS when I developed ovarian cysts with the norplant. I had all the signs, weight gain and cysts. I was told again and again to go on metformin, a diabetic drug, despite having normal blood sugars. Then once I went off they suddenly were uncertain of my PCOS status. I no longer had cystic ovaries and appeared to be able to get pregnant so I was cleared of having PCOS. The pill made me have all the symptoms of PCOS. Again and again and again…I wish to god I had never heard of birth control.